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I am trying to help my mom out. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused. I find that I sometimes snap at her and then I feel guilty. What do I do?
Mom insists she is safe living alone. She has had two falls and we are just waiting for the call to tell us she is in the hospital with a broken hip. We don’t want to force her to make a change, but she is at risk.
Dad goes to four different doctors and they do not speak to each other. We have the internet but that does not make us experts. No one will take time to speak to us or answer out questions. Where do we turn?
My dad needs to stop driving, but he will not talk to us about it. The car has lots of dents. He can hardly get in and out of the car after his stroke. We are so concerned about his safety and the safety of others on the road.
We live out of state. We get calls from the neighbors about our parents. When we call them we hear that everything is fine. How do we handle this without moving near them?
Our parents live in Florida on a permanent basis and have for more than 10 years. We recognize that they are not safe living that far from us, but they refuse to move. Now what?
Our mom is in an assisted living facility. We are not sure that they are doing a good job and are considering a nursing home instead. How do we assess them and her to know whether a change is necessary?
Mom is failing, but still alert and oriented. We do not know what she wants if she is unable to make her own decisions. We don’t even know where she wants to be buried or if she wants to be cremated. We are all afraid to talk to her about this.
We have an agency that provides staff that are living with our parent. The staff used to come a few hours a day, but we felt for their safety needed to have assistance 24/7. We are even wondering if this is enough. Is that the kind of service you provide?
I have three brothers and sisters and none of them participate in taking care of our mom. They live in within miles of our parent’s home, but all of the caregiving falls to me. I cannot do it anymore. Why won’t they help me?

I am trying to help my mom out. I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused. I find that I sometimes snap at her and then I feel guilty. What do I do?

Mom insists she is safe living alone. She has had two falls and we are just waiting for the call to tell us she is in the hospital with a broken hip. We don’t want to force her to make a change, but she is at risk.

Dad goes to four different doctors and they do not speak to each other. We have the internet but that does not make us experts. No one will take time to speak to us or answer out questions. Where do we turn?

My dad needs to stop driving, but he will not talk to us about it. The car has lots of dents. He can hardly get in and out of the car after his stroke. We are so concerned about his safety and the safety of others on the road.

We live out of state. We get calls from the neighbors about our parents. When we call them we hear that everything is fine. How do we handle this without moving near them?

Our parents live in Florida on a permanent basis and have for more than 10 years. We recognize that they are not safe living that far from us, but they refuse to move. Now what?

Our mom is in an assisted living facility. We are not sure that they are doing a good job and are considering a nursing home instead. How do we assess them and her to know whether a change is necessary?

Mom is failing, but still alert and oriented. We do not know what she wants if she is unable to make her own decisions. We don’t even know where she wants to be buried or if she wants to be cremated. We are all afraid to talk to her about this.

We have an agency that provides staff that are living with our parent. The staff used to come a few hours a day, but we felt for their safety needed to have assistance 24/7. We are even wondering if this is enough. Is that the kind of service you provide?

I have three brothers and sisters and none of them participate in taking care of our mom. They live in within miles of our parent’s home, but all of the caregiving falls to me. I cannot do it anymore. Why won’t they help me?

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Family – There are biological families and families that fulfill the role without genetic connection. Families may be at odds with decision making for the senior’s needs. Family may be geographically dispersed and not understand the changes of condition. Seniors may want to protect their family and not share information because they do not want to worry them.

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